Updated: Tue, 19 Oct 2010 07:05:09 GMT | By Miss Love

Being taken for granted

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Dear Miss Love,

My friend is taking advantage ofour friendship and taking me for granted. She asks a lot of favours and barely shows any thanks and is reluctant to return them.I may betoo sensitive, but in the past I have tried bringing this up, butit wasn’t very successful. I don’t want to be a doormat or lose her friendship.

I think you need to talk to her again and really get the message across as to what it is that is bothering you and what you’re not happy about. By doing this it doesn’t mean that you will fall out or the friendship will suffer. Why don’t you come straight out and tell her that you are feeling used. She may not even be aware that she is behaving this way.

It isn’t a pleasant feeling to think or know you are being used, so you aren’t being oversensitive. If the situation doesn’t improve or she doesn’t feel as though she is doing anything wrong and the both of you drift apart you will find that there are plenty of people out there who are willing to be your friend. You can still be a great friend who cares and gives a lot to the friendship, without being taken advantage of, you just need to be a bit more assertive.

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