Updated: Thu, 28 Oct 2010 10:05:18 GMT | By Miss Love

How do I get to know him better?

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Dear Miss Love

There is a guy at my church whom I really like. We are getting to know each other little by little. It’s small stuff, nothing deep; however, I don’t know how to get further than this and be closer to him. I’m insecure and he is a good looking guy. How do I tell if he likes me without actually blurting it out, scaring him off and making a fool of myself?

There are a couple of options that you can think about. However, I first want to let you know that discreetly asking him or finding out wouldn’t scare him off if he is taking an interest in you. You can continue what you are doing and before you know it a friendship will develop which can lead to something else.

Maybe think of a few things to ask him for when you next meet so that you can expand the conversation. Ask friends whether they know what his hobbies are and see whether you have similar interests and go from there.

Why notpluck up some courage and to ask him if he would like to go for a coffee with you after your Church meeting or a different occasion? Spending time together in a different atmosphere and alone will get the ball rolling. You have nothing to lose by doing this and if he says “yes” then you will have an indication that he could like you more than just an acquaintance. If he declines, then you know that his interests aren’t the same as yours.

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